I Thought She Was Just Forgetful—Then Everything Changed

If you’re brushing off little memory lapses in your parent, thinking “everyone forgets things,” you’re not alone. But sometimes, those moments point to something deeper. This story isn’t just about memory loss. It’s about the power of paying attention and what to do when you finally realize something’s not right.

I used to laugh it off when Mom would tell the same story twice or lose her glasses again. She was sharp, social, and still walking two miles a day at 74. But over time, things started to pile up. The milk kept going in the pantry. Her bills were stacking up. She started missing our Sunday calls.

The moment I couldn’t ignore came on a holiday visit. She’d set the oven to broil instead of bake and forgot it was on. I walked into the kitchen to smoke and confusion, and a look in her eyes I’d never seen before. She was scared. So was I.

We sat down that night and had a gentle, tearful conversation about getting help. Not just for her, but for both of us.

Steps Forward:

• I made a list of everything I’d noticed, dates, patterns, odd moments.

• I booked a wellness checkup and went with her to the appointment.

• We started looking at memory care options early, before a crisis forced us to.

• Most importantly, I reminded her (and myself) that needing help isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of a safer, more supported chapter.

Recommendations:

If something doesn’t feel right, trust your instincts. Document what you see. Talk to your parent with compassion, not confrontation. And if you’re unsure whether it’s time for memory care, download our free Senior Care Starter Kit for signs to watch for and conversation starters to ease the worry.